Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Kasper

It's one of those weird, unanticipated results of the internet age. Woke up to the news that a friend is dead. We knew each other for 15 years, closer or further, but never in person. He was Norwegian and an anglophile. He loved the Smiths and had very good hair. At one point, I think we flirted, but by now he was simply a queer kid I'd known since back in the day.

I asked this last time and I still won't know next time. How do you mourn a friend you've always never known?

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  1. I think you will get a lot of support in the blogging world. We have very close relationships. For me, my blogging friends know more about me than anyone else. It is such a safe place, isn't it. I have lost blogging friends and I didn't tell anyone because there is no way to explain loving someone you have never met. I don't have an answer for you but I am standing by you, holding your hand.

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    1. Thank you. I really do appreciate it.

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  2. I'm still working on that one, sweetie. I'm so sorry.

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    1. It gets better, but not for everyone.

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  3. It's a terrible thing - I have no idea. I'm sorry for your loss :'(

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  4. I feel, very strongly, a deep affection, really a love, for these people in my blog world. That's you included Hank, because I don't just know you from this blog. I've been bit by bit knowing you from your mothers' blog all these years.
    I've never had the experience of loosing someone I care deeply about but have never met. But I feel for you and acknowledge the pain that is on your heart today, Hank. I'm glad you turn to us and I send you my heartfelt condolences.

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  5. i'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

    xxalainaxx

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  6. I think maybe you mourn a friend you've always never known just as you write your blog, with absolute honesty, transparency, and love.

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